Be Careful What You Focus On

Concentrate On The “Good” And Things Get Better. Concentrate On The “Bad” And Things Get Worse

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You’ve heard the phrase, “Be careful what you wish for”?

Well, I’d rework that and say, “Be careful what you focus on.”

In the 1980s, I read a remarkable book, titled, “You Can Have It All,” by Arnold Patent. At the height of that “Big ‘80s” decade which followed the self-help-book-laden 1970s, You Can Have It All essentially combined, translated, and relayed all the basic spiritual and Universal principles of every major “positive-thinking” publication since the beginning of time; everything from the Bible to the works of Norman Vincent Peale, The Secret, and beyond.

And one of those core principles or “Universal Laws,” was this:

What you focus on, expands. Focus on the good, and things get better; focus on the bad, and things get worse.

For example, as Patent explained it, if you have $500.00 in bills, and only $5.00 in the bank, most people tend to focus on their debits, instead of their credits. As a result, their debts increase, and their savings dissipate.

But Patent rejected that idea. He suggested focusing on the $5.00, being grateful for it, and giving thanks for what one has, and then allowing what we have to increase.

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Over thirty years later, Dr. Jamal Browne, a Communications Manager, recently shared a portion of his life and career experience on LinkedIn where he offered a first-hand experience of how he worked this turn-around perspective and spiritual strategy to his advantage.

He once accepted a job where the salary barely covered his basic monthly bills. “The job market was tough, and I was desperate,” he wrote. “I was incredibly grateful at first, but it wasn’t long before I started feeling undervalued, forgotten, and unfulfilled. After all, it was a stark contrast to what I had envisioned for my life after many bold investments into my academic and professional development.”

“Then one day as I sat feeling sorry myself,” he continued, he realized that just a short time before, he was unemployed, with no alternative source of income and his financial obligations “were not going away.” Browne’s perspective “changed in an instant,” and he began “thanking God for His provision, and for the breakthrough that was on its way.”

Browne decided it all was “a much-needed lesson in patience, gratitude, and humility that made perfect sense just a few months later,” when he received an unexpected job offer with “an unbelievable salary, from an amazing organization.”

Through that experience, Browne learned the following:

1] To be grateful for the little he had

2] To be patient

3] To remain humble through his struggles, and hopeful amidst his disappointment.

“Experiences like these,” he decided, “are meant to bring the best out of us.”

A key component in properly activating, and ultimately enhancing your chances of success in applying the “positive focus” rule of thumbs-up as opposed to the thumbs-down theory involves employing a significant amount of the correct mix of emotional and psychological energy.

In other words: joy.

As you watch the bills pile up juxtaposed to that small amount of funds that you may have in your bank account, it might be a good idea to remember the climactic scene in the 1946 feature film classic, It’s A Wonderful Life.

After Jimmy Stewart’s character, George Bailey, realizes just how wonderful his life really is, struggles and all, following the alternate existence he experienced shown by way of his guardian angel Clarence (played by Henry Travers), he jubilantly arrives home where he’s met with various authorities who deliver nothing but bad news.

Unfettered by it all, George smiles and laughs and cries tears of joy, so grateful to be alive. Moments later, various friends, colleagues, and fellow citizens, all of whom he helped at one time or another, show up at his door with all kinds of money, love, and support to help George in return.

Yeah, it’s a fantasy. But according to those like Arnold Patent and Jamal Browne, the fantasy is real.

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Whatever your religious or spiritual belief, or lack thereof, it certainly isn’t going to do any harm to try out the re-focused Universal law that Patent suggested over thirty years ago, and those like Browne put into action.

What have you got to lose?

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Herbie J Pilato writes about pop-culture, stays positive, and hosts THEN AGAIN WITH HERBIE J PILATO, a TV talk show on Amazon Prime and Amazon Prime UK.

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