How Not To Miss Your Romantic Timing

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I know this might not be the easiest time to meet anyone new, with the whole social distancing/wearing-a-mask thing, and all. But you can embrace the following information as something to consider when…the “timing” is right.

So, without further adieu, without sounding like Frank Sinatra (and with a history of having both hesitation and haste make waste — and not always doing things the right way, let alone, my way), I’ve had my share of lost and found in the romantic love department. I cringe each time I think about the many missed opportunities I had for true romance, just simply because I missed my timing.

Assuredly, we all know about the “I just wanna’ be friends” thing. Each of us, at one time or another, has either heard or said that to either the right or wrong person in our lives. Most likely, we’ve also either lived to regret hearing or saying it.

With once more a nod to Sinatra, I say, “Regrets, I’ve had a few.”

But then again, not “too few to mention” — but too “many.”

But be that as it may, let’s make one thing perfectly clear (now I’m quoting Nixon? Really?!):

No matter the number of your age, your past relationships, or your failed marriages, if you’re interested in somebody romantically, you need to let that person know of said fact within…oh, about five seconds…of meeting them.

That’s right: FIVE SECONDS.

Because if you don’t let them know in five seconds, more times than not, you’ll be stuck in “The Friends Zone” for the entirety of that relationship.

And that could be a good or bad thing, depending on the ultimate situation.

For example, it’s a good thing if your person of romantic interest is not your type or cup of tea or not a good match for you in the least.

But it might be a bad thing if you missed your timing with whom you later discover to be a really wonderful person who could have potentially been “The One.”

And yet, too, let’s also be clear about a couple of other things:

1 — Missing your romantic timing when first meeting a potential romantic partner does not mean that there is no hope for gaining their affection in the future. You just have to work a little harder in that future. And sometimes that hard work pays off, and some other times that hard work results in a tremendous embarrassment and a colossal waste of time

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2] —Conversely, informing your potential partner of your romantic interest within five seconds of meeting them does not mean you immediately reach out and plant a big wet kiss on them within those five seconds.

Number 2 is more than a little psychotic; not to mention, rude, and…uhm — a big turn-off. Hello! (Now, I’m quoting the ’80s?!)

The Bottom Line of Love

To be victorious in love, it’s all about being subtle. Somehow, through the chemistry of life, romance, magic, and mystery, you have to let your potential-future-honey-bunny know all the following within that initial five-second meeting period:

That you are physically, emotionally, and psychologically attracted to them, in the most respectful, dignified, elegant, sophisticated, and humorous way.

That’s a lot, uh? Not to mention seemingly impossible.

But millions of people do it every day.

And you can be one of ’em. You can best yourself in this challenge, ultimately, the challenge of a lifetime, to find the love of your lifetime.

No one said love was easy.

It’s anything but easy.

Yet, more than anything, it’s thrilling and exciting.

And that’s what makes it so grand.

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Herbie J Pilato writes about pop-culture, stays positive, and hosts THEN AGAIN WITH HERBIE J PILATO, a TV talk show on Amazon Prime and Amazon Prime UK.

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