So, Who are We Supposed to Hate this week? How ‘Bout We Try Forgiveness Instead?

“Those Without Sin Cast the First Stone” and “Judge Not, Lest Ye Be Judged” Comes to Mind

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Kevin Hart chats with Ellen DeGeneres on her TV talk show, and Ira Madison III (inset) recently wrote about it all in The Hollywood Reporter. [Photo credit: Warner Bros. Pictures/Xavier Guerra]

A few years back, comedian Kevin Hart made vile, offensive remarks directed toward the gay community. Apparently, that was part of his comedy act. Although, I don’t see how making such comments could ever be funny.

But with that said, those dreadful remarks came back to haunt him when he was invited to host this year’s Academy Awards televised presentation.

After a backlash, and before the Motion Picture Academy even had the chance to make a decision one way or the other, Hart then stepped away from the job.

Some weeks later, as of January 4, Hart appears on The Ellen Degeneres Show, seemingly to make some kind of amends. Degeneres, who happens to be a gay, takes the bull by the horns and, also seemingly, decides to represent the entire entertainment industry, which made up gay, straight, and transgender individuals, just like the rest of the world, and offers forgiveness. She even goes a step further and says that Hart should return to his Oscar hosting duties, and asks the Motion Picture Academy to reinstate him.

Shortly after Hart’s appearance on Ellen’s show, Ira Madison III, the host of the Crooked Media podcast Keep It!, and a writer for Netflix’s upcoming apocalypse dramedy Daybreak, penned a guest column in The Hollywood Reporter.

Madison, who happens to be African-American, and gay, is not at all pleased with neither Hart or DeGeneres’ position and debunks them both.

So, who’s right here? Who’s wrong? Or better yet, how about “Those without sin, cast the first stone,” and “Judge not, lest ye be judged”?

The last time I checked, we all make mistakes; we’re all human beings; we all say and do the wrong things at the wrong times. Granted, Hart’s initial statements from years before were indeed wrong on so many levels, and he may have done do the right thing by stepping down as host for the upcoming Oscars.

But DeGeneres, who is a friend to Hart, off-screen, tried to keep the peace, to help mend his ways. Unfortunately, her peace-keeping backfired. And also, unfortunately, Madison wasn’t having any of it.

We can go back and forth on this throughout eternity. But that’s not how I want to spend my eternity. I’d rather spend my eternity with love, and not hate.

Hate is hate, love is love, and forgiveness is forgiveness.

Hart hated, Degeneres tried some love, and Madison might need to try a little more forgiveness.

And maybe Hart does need to make another apology, and maybe DeGenerous does need to take a step back and not be so bold enough to even think that she could make sweeping statements all on her own that represent thousands of other people. And of course, Madison has the right to be hurt and disappointed with Hart and DeGenerous, just like we all have the right to be hurt and disappointed through any of life’s struggles.

But at some point, we all need to take a breath and remember what we’re fighting mostly for in this world:

Acceptance, loving-kindness, compassion, understanding, and yes, respect in every measure, in every situation. And what makes us most “human” and keeps us “united” is our “humanity.”

And without a doubt, forgiveness is an intricate part of that equation.

Endless forgiveness.

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Herbie J Pilato writes about pop-culture, stays positive, and hosts THEN AGAIN WITH HERBIE J PILATO, a TV talk show on Amazon Prime and Amazon Prime UK.

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