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The Best and Healthiest Way To Grieve The Loss Of Loved Ones
No son loved a mother and father as much as I did — and do, all these years after they left this world.
But I do not pang after their loss or grieve intensely — for several reasons.
Firstly, let me be clear: we all grieve the loss of a loved one, or a colleague, a friend, a pet, in our own way. And no one should callously dictate how another should behave, certainly when it comes to the demise of a dear one.
But there is a healthy way to grieve, and that way has nothing to do with endless daily tears, years after the soul we loved is no longer visible to us in this existence.
Certainly, too, losing a parent after they reached into their 80s or 90s, following a good long life, is much different than a parent who loses a child, or when any young person in our lives, be they a co-worker or a sibling or a close friend, leaves us.
The experience of death in our lives is different from case to case, individual to individual. But the reality is, those who have left us at any age, no matter our relationship to them, are gone. They are not here anymore. They are somewhere else, depending on our individual religious or spiritual beliefs. And we are still here. I personally believe that one someone dies in this world, they live again in Heaven or move…
