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The Past Journey That Brought Me To My Present Destination

3 min readOct 14, 2025
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Please allow me to share, if just a portion of the journey that brought me to my present destination.

When I returned to L.A. in 2009, I was a lost soul. I had cared for my parents for 13 years in my hometown of Rochester, NY. Dad died in 1995, and then my Mom died in 2008.

After she left this world, I asked her, in my heart, “Mom…can I really go back to L.A…and start over again…at 48 years old?”

Her voice answered me in my heart, replied, “Go, Herbie J! Go!”

So, I was ready to leave Rochester…but for where?

Then, as if out of nowhere, seemingly, I received a sign:

I read somewhere online about an available Arts grant program in Rochester…one that would ultimately send me to LA to “explore opportunities.”

So, I applied for the grant…and got it. It wasn’t very much, only $600.00, but that was at least enough to get me to L.A.

And then a dear friend graciously invited me to stay in his CA home…while I “explored the opportunities”

Unfortunately, the opportunities didn’t pan out…

That is…until another friend asked me to lunch, and said, “Don’t go! I know someone who is looking to rent out the room where I once lived in…

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Herbie J Pilato
Herbie J Pilato

Written by Herbie J Pilato

Herbie J Pilato is a writer, producer, and TV personality whose books about life and pop culture include THE 12 BEST SECRETS OF CHRISTMAS.

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